13 Comments so far

1. Ellen on August 20, 2009 2:38 am

   I agree in general that it should only be for a first baby. But, I think there are a few exceptions.
   1. If several years have passed and the mom has gotten rid of most baby stuff–like for example if a mother’s first child is 8 and she is pregnant again.
   2. Multiples–Yeah, you may have stuff for one baby, but not for two. It’s hard to have two babies share a car seat and stuff like that.
   3. Gender difference–I kind of think this is pointless because babies need the same things no matter what their gender is, so if you already have a son and are now having a daughter i don’t think you need to get pink stuff…but a small celebration where people just give baby clothes and no major items is a fun idea and can be done on a much smaller scale.

2. abfabmom on August 20, 2009 2:39 am

   I don’t have much of an issue with it, if we know that the second baby is a different gender from the first baby, or if the births are spread apart by enough years that the first baby’s things have gone to other homes.
   Also, in general, it probably depends on who we’re talking about. If I know that the source of the shower is the honoree’s friends wanting to do something nice for them, then I’m okay with it. If I know that the source of the shower is the “honoree” making a gift-grab, then I’d probably decline the invitation.
   Generally, it’s a “violation” of etiquette to do this. But I think there are varying degrees of passable behavior on this topic.

3. USMCWife on August 20, 2009 3:05 am

   I don’t think anyone woman should ever throw her own shower, I think that’s REALLY tacky.
   I also think second showers are not traditional, so if you want to have one, it shouldn’t be a traditional shower. I’m considering (if she’ll let me) throwing my sister in law a co-ed second baby shower. She’s due four months after my first with her second. I’m thinking pizza, a 6 foot sub, NO GAMES, beer, and no registry. She’s not finding out the sex so guest can get her cloths if they want, but whats more expected will be “Thing’s you’d find in a diaper bag.” Diapers, cream, powder, a new diaper bag, ect. I just want to celebrate new life! But I think a second “traditional” shower would be a little tacky. I’m hoping she’ll allow me to throw her a “diaper bag” shower!

4. Abi on August 20, 2009 3:05 am

   Honestly, I don’t have a problem with it. I’ve never even thought anything negative about it when I’ve been invited to one. Usually though when someone I’ve known has a shower for their second babies it’s typically a “diaper shower” where people just bring things like diapers, wipes, etc. Just because it is not their first baby, they still need those, and I think every baby is a reason to celebrate.

5. * <3 Fiance&MommyTo2Men <3 on August 20, 2009 3:33 am

   i dont see it this way… i know some people who have had kids 5+ years apart… are they supposed to have everything from their first child?? i think in certain circumstances its not required, but i feel for the most part that it shouldnt matter how many kids you have, its a way for your family and friends to be there in a way that makes the mommy-to-be feel special and get more excited… *personal opinion i guess*

6. Mommy of 1, #2 on the way! on August 20, 2009 4:27 am

   I have heard so many people have them with their second baby if it was a different sex than the first baby. I have already been told if this baby is a girl they are giving me a shower lol I think it all depends on the family and what they want lol good luck

7. Logan and Ella's Mommy on August 20, 2009 4:45 am

   I see it as a personal decision. My friends want to throw me a shower this time just as they did with my first. I didn’t bring it up. I think most people see a baby shower as a celebration, not a reason to scream “Give me THINGS!”.
   I often wonder about the people that have strong feelings against it. What do you care?? LOL If you don’t think it’s right just don’t go.

8. SaraC ~*Wesley Born 6/26/09*~ on August 20, 2009 4:46 am

   i guess it really depends on the family and friends…my sis is about to have her 3rd baby and 3rd baby shower..which i can’t attend do to distance but it’s really up to the family and everything…i really don’t see a problem with it. all babies are special and should be celebrated.

9. Lanie on August 20, 2009 4:53 am

   I think that if a family member or a friend wants to throw you a shower for a 2nd or 3rd baby, i feel that is just fine! If you were to throw yourself one it would be kind of tacky.

10. breynnmi on August 20, 2009 5:38 am

    I only had 1 for my first. Two years later I had my second child and I did not have a baby shower. My step mom is having a baby shower for her thrid child but my youngest step sister is 12 lol.

11. Mady's mama #2 due 12/16/09! on August 20, 2009 6:13 am

    no i don’t think so… i would have a baby shower no matter how many kids i had. sometimes people have their kids far apart and then already got rid of all of their stuff.

12. Amanda B on August 20, 2009 7:09 am

    I see no problem with it.
    Every child should be celebrated. It should not be limited to the first child.

13. Lil W on August 20, 2009 7:13 am

    Well I dont really care give a flying ****