18 Comments so far

1. Amher had this to say about the topic:

   if you are having the same sex baby that you already have, then a baby shower is out of the question. if you have a boy and are having a girl, then it is fine because you need totally different things for a girl than a boy. it is not uncommon to have a 2nd baby shower as long as someone else throws it for you!

2. Nelle - #1 Baby Due 10th Nov! had this to say about the topic:

   I’m only having my first baby now, and getting a baby shower in August thrown for me for which I am VERY excited about, so I don’t know all the etiquette and rules involved when I answer this.
   With no rudeness intended, maybe a second baby shower by some is considered greedy as you were given gifts for the first baby and it would be rude to expect more when you would have baby stuff left over from your first? Not saying that you have ASKED for a baby shower, as you say you haven’t. I mean that others I guess are saying you shouldn’t expect a baby shower for maybe this reason. As it would be seen as greedy on your part to accept a second baby shower.
   This is just a possibility based on what I have read on here about other baby shower questions!
   By the way, I don’t see it as a bad thing at all to have more than one baby shower! Each baby is to be celebrated – I just wonder if this is what others think!
   Good luck!

3. diaperca had this to say about the topic:

   There is nothing wrong with subsequent baby showers. Etiquette has eased a lot on this issue over the years…..and guests think nothing of it. The biggest difference is in the types of gifts you will receive. Also whether you are having a child that is a different gender than the first will affect gift selections, too.
   Every baby deserves to be celebrated!

4. It's A Boy! #1 Due 11/05/09 had this to say about the topic:

   You make the rules for your own baby shower it is your baby right?
   Some people don’t have second baby showers if the baby is the same sex cause it can use all of the 1st baby old thing’s along with some new but it’s your decision you shouldn’t let anyone tell you what to do for your child!
   My sister chose to not have a baby shower due to her having back to back pregnancies and they were the same sex I was disappointed she didn’t but it was her decision not mines good luck!

5. IT'S A BOY!! had this to say about the topic:

   I don’t see a big deal about having a second baby shower for your second child. as far as im concerned it’s to celebrate the beginning of a new life. People don’t have to buy you a lot of presents. but it would be nice to have a celebration to welcome your new bundle of joy into the world. a lot of people won’t go because they think you just want presents. that’s not always the case. find someone to throw you a baby shower and have another one. it’s not a big deal.

6. ??????? ???? ??¢??????? had this to say about the topic:

   I really don’t see why it would be bad to have a second baby shower for your second child. I personally think you should have one. Your right that a new life should be celebrated.
   Honestly, I really don’t think there would be “rules” for a baby shower. I know lots of women who threw there own showers. Maybe you could throw one for yourself. But, I think the mother is the person who should make up the rules for the shower.
   Congrats on the new baby.

7. Carter is here 08/10/09! had this to say about the topic:

   It used to be really taboo to have another baby shower when you already had one for your first child. However… times are a changing and more and more ppl are having second baby showers. I personally believe if you have a boy the first time around… and a girl the second.. you should have a second baby shower ( or vice versa) because you quite possibly need all new items especially clothing. Babies are expensive.

8. omarion's mommy had this to say about the topic:

   I heard the same thing, but I could care less. My son is going to be 3 in October, and my baby is due next month. I had a baby shower for my first one, and I having one next saturday for my unborn. You are right, a baby shower is too celebrate the new life that will be coming into the world. I don’t know where these rules come from, but if someone is planning on throwing you one, then accept it. Who cares what anyone else says. I sure don’t. Good Luck and Congratulations.

9. Sarahbeth J had this to say about the topic:

   I’ve heard of moms having a “baby sprinkle” for 2nd etc babies. The reason it’s uncouth to have multiple baby showers is because the point of a shower is to get gifts. It can seem greedy to expect people to buy gifts for each baby. With that being said, close family and friends will probably give you something anyway.

10. ~ dream skies ~ had this to say about the topic:

    That’s dumb of them to tell you that. I know women who have had 6 baby showers. Its not a rule and a lot of women don’t have them after their second child. I am pregnant with my third and I didn’t want one bc it would bring up bad memories for me. Their probably just being cheap and I’m sure some other person will throw u one.

11. Mommy to be 2/6/2010 had this to say about the topic:

    I have never seen anyone have a second baby shower. The idea is that you already have all the major things that you will need from your first pregnancy…Maybe you could have a “meet the baby” shower, after the baby is born for people to be able to meet him/her…

12. sunshiny had this to say about the topic:

    I think it’s because if your kids are close together in age, you should theoretically be able to use the same items (hand me downs, if you will). If someone wants to throw you a shower, by all means, go ahead! But asking for someone to do it for you is just tacky…no explanation necessary there.

13. Ohaeri had this to say about the topic:

    That’s so dumb! My mother had a baby shower for her fourth baby . . . even though she didn’t ask for one and didn’t want one. lol
    Nobody writes the rules. There are no rules. Have a baby shower if you want one, it doesn’t make you a terrible person or anything.

14. rose22 had this to say about the topic:

    You can have one just dont throw it yourself. Have a family member or friend throw one for you.

15. chamae had this to say about the topic:

    That’s insane. Every baby should have a baby shower. Whoever told you that is an idiot.

16. Emilys Mommy with #2 on the way had this to say about the topic:

    that is retarded as far as im concerned for every baby there should be a baby shower

17. imagine had this to say about the topic:

    What? I’ve been to at least two 2nd baby showers. I never knew you weren’t allowed to have more than one!

18. Olivia J had this to say about the topic:

    You aren’t supposed to throw your own baby shower anyway so it isn’t up to you.
    I know you aren’t going to like that because it’s one of the “rules”.